04 Nov Giving Zero F*cks – Part Deux
This topic so nice, I had to do it twice. Missed Part 1 of Giving Zero F*cks? Catch up here.
You can spend your whole life doing what you don’t want to do, and die. Or you can spend your life doing what you do want to do, and die. The end result is the same. The question is whether or not you are going to give zero f*cks and enjoy yourself in the meantime.
In 1910, U.S President Teddy Roosevelt gave a speech and he said:
It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs; who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without effort and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails daring greatly.”
The status quo of society is designed so that you get stuck and pull along in a quintessential existence. You consume things, you look at Netflix, you get happy in the comfort of a job, you become a specialist (maybe), get a family, perhaps a couple vacations and a whole heap of debt.
What’s “the stuck” for people? What I mean is, what is holding people back from their greatness?
I hear it all of the time. It’s the fear of failure, the fear of looking bad and even the fear of success.
What are people going to think or say when I fail or succeed? What are responsibilities that come with it? What if people don’t like me anymore?
If you want to make an impact in the world, people are going to say a lot of nasty things about you. Some people are going to hate you anyway, no matter what you do, so you might as well do the things that you love and be yourself. When you do nothing and get zero results, people are still going to talk about you. You might as well go for something and make your mark at greatness.
Don’t let naysayers keep you back from executing your vision. Even if you have started and someone gives you unwanted feedback, say thanks and keep moving along. You don’t even have the energy to waste on being offended. You have greatness to achieve.
Nobody ever achieved anything extraordinary without f*cking up once or twice or perhaps a few times.
This leads me to a problem close to my heart, ensuring everything is perfect before starting off. Everything needs to be perfectly aligned before I can even begin the simplest of projects. I had this problem up to 3 months ago before I started this blog. I wanted to write but oh, the website wasn’t ready, I don’t have a graphic artist or cool pictures to compliment my writing.
Fear. Excuses. Procrastination.
I found myself saying I couldn’t begin when I heard a voice ask, “Analise what do you really want to do?” “Write,” I replied.
So that’s how the blog got started. I decided I was going to write and take small steps. My takeaway: Not everything that is impactful or important needs to start on a grand scale. Keep focused on the vision and take small, manageable steps.
You and I can no longer afford this “wait and see attitude.” Risk and daring adventures are not pursuits only reserved for people with money, status and parental safety nets.
Researcher and Storyteller Brene Brown states in her book Daring Greatly,
“Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, “no matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough. It’s going to bed at night and thinking “yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.”
You read right. You are worthy of love and belonging even if you ‘fail.’
What is failure anyway? My definition: When I don’t learn the lesson and I repeat the same mistakes over and over again. Basically, my entire 20s dating life.
- You failed at a marriage? Learn your lessons and hold your head high.
- Your entrepreneurial venture failed? Learn your lessons and hold your head high.
- You failed at a task at work and cost the company a client? Apologize, learn your lessons and hold your head high.
- You failed at public speaking? Learn your lessons and hold your head high.
- You failed in a competition? Learn your lessons and hold your head high.
You see what I’m getting at. I have ‘failed’ at most of the above and I am still proud of myself. I’ve got battle scars and gained depth of character in the process. Plus I am wiser and can make better judgmental calls now.
So, are you ready to be bold, be brave and play big? I certainly am.
Here’s to giving zero f*cks! Have a courageous day!