08 Feb I lost weight and I don’t care…
Everyone from family to the media is constantly reminding us that silm equals good, happy and positive. Simply put: if you’re not silm, you’re screwed. You won’t get a man, you won’t be happy and sometimes you won’t get the job you really want. Sounds ridiculous, doesn’t it? But if you take a moment to stop and think about the messages we are receiving all the time, it’s incredibly accurate.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]
Giving up not caring about your weight is tough with such blatant reminders. So it’s pretty easy to see why my part of my self worth is attached to the number on a scale or inside of a dress.
I was mostly slim however for a couple of years I was chubby and even had first stage obesity. I wrote last year how I tackled the shame of my weight gain while I was still overweight. It was super tough. If you haven’t read about it, you can take a quick read.
Now that I’ve lost weight, the key to getting there was compassion for myself. No beating myself up when I broke my diet, no name calling when I looked in the mirror when my pants couldn’t fit, and choosing to see exercise as self love as opposed to a torture I must endure to look a certain way.
Compassion and Self love will get you through the toughest of times.
Moving from a place of self loathing to self love is not a smooth transition. There are bumps on the road but compassion can get you to the place where you love yourself just as you are.
Compassion looks like:
Applauding yourself for getting through a tough gym session when you were tired to go in the first place.
Understanding that breaking a flour addiction is so very hard but that tomorrow is another day to begin afresh and you are learning along the way.
Understanding that your feeling guilty about all the pastries you ate for the past 6 months, doesn’t change the present or make you lose weight faster.
Knowing that feeling sad about your job or relationship forces you to reach for the potato chips for comfort and creating a space for you to feel vulnerable without breaking a healthy diet.
So, if you have that thing you are constantly measuring yourself by, consider this your loving reminder to cut it out.
Easier said than done, I know.
It might not happen overnight, but you can start choosing a more loving conversation for yourself right now. You can start getting fed up with how hard you are on yourself and start remembering even just one thing that is down right fabulous about YOU.
How do you express self-love? How are you kind to yourself even when you might not be reaching your weight goals as fast as you would like?